Why are people like this?!? I want a black picket fence (I know the saying is white picket fence, but this is MY blog), with 18 dogs, and 2.5 cats. My future spouse has to be 18 feet tall and drive 1.7 and a half Maybach(s). And if they can’t afford a Maybach then they need to…blah blah. But somehow, miraculously, said person ends up with a black picket fence, with 18 dogs, and 2.5 cats with a spouse that drives 1.7 and a half Maybachs. That’s like…it right? You should be happy right? Because that’s what you wanted, because that’s what everyone else has…riiiight? Or is it a wrong because, you THOUGHT that’s what you wanted because that’s what everyone else has? LOOK AT ME WHEN I’M TALKING TO YOU! Have a seat my friend. Because what is meant for everybody, is not always what is meant for you.
Now I really want to start this off with several examples of persons I may, or may not know. But I shall spare them in the event that they find this post and think, OMG why are they telling my business?! Like those Facebook friends who make posts intentionally at someone, but say they’re just posting what’s on their mind and it’s not intended for anyone. That’s what I’m about to do right now.
Looka here. We’ve all done it. We’ve all wanted someone elses life. Or wondered why something didn’t work out for you like it worked out for Bethel. Like how I wonder why Chris Evans is not MY HUSBAND instead of, whomever he’s married to. Like damn! I just want to live a good life in Captain America’s arms! Let me get a piece Lizzo! Damn! What does she have that I don’t have? What can she do that I can’t do? Why does HeEeE get allll the girlsss? I’m not a doctor or psychologist, but I would assume this is common amongst the general population of human beings.
First off, what is it that makes us think this way? Because socials, that’s why. (Kinda, but not really, but really). What makes us feel we need this certain life that supposedly signifies that you’ve made it in this world? Is it societal pressures? How about to show off? Or is it because everyone else is doing it?
Although I would really like to blame A LOT of this on social media, I can’t. We’re all our own people, with our own minds, making our own decisions. And we choose what we let infiltrate our lives on a daily basis. If the first paragraph made you feel some type of way, you guessed it. It’s your fault. Whoa! You mean people are responsible for their own feelings!?! Yeah, I said it.
Social media, is not real life. I am not Kim Kardashian…( or am I…because I could be anybody right now, how would you know?…) Every time that you scroll or swipe you’re reminded on a daily basis how imperfect you are. How you should try harder to be like Beyonce. Why doesn’t your hair curl like that? Well because there are filters, and don’t forget how Solange whooped Jay-Z in the elevator. No one is perfect. And you don’t know the path people have taken to get to where they are, or what they’re dealing with currently to maintain their image or status.
Instead of wondering why that can’t be you, start asking yourself how you can become better. Nothing is handed to anyone, no matter how many times one truly wants to believe this. Get your life, by looking in the mirror, saying ” I can do it!” or whatever makes you feel like a big girl, and take those baby steps to a better you one day at a time. Don’t be that person who sees everyone with a Lexus, buys a Lexus and then you’re like I effing hate this Lexus. Find the path to you. Maybe the seats were too hard, and the Corolla has softer seats. Do you for you! What is meant for everybody, is not always what is meant for you.
Our knowledge of what the richer than ourselves possess, and the poor do not, has never been more widespread. Therefore, envy, which is wanting what others have, and jealousy, which is not wanting others to have what one has, have never been more widespread.
John Fowles